Run screaming?
Your best bet is to use a filter with higher damping. With a strictly low-pass filter (actually with any filter that has no unstable zeros) the shape of the phase response is exactly determined by the shape of the amplitude response.
Seach for "Gaussian filter". You'll be dismayed at the fact that your shape factor will get worse, not better. Live with it.
There are some 5th-order monolithic filters out there, but I can't recall who makes them.