That's not what you need to apologise for. You should be apologising for tantalsing us with the output from an electromagnetic field simulation of half a connector pair, when you should have been simulating the mated pair of connectors.
The E/M simulation of the un-mated half of a connector isn't slap-dash - it is total incompetence. It makes it perfectly obvious why you needed to Dremel the copper on the board to minimise the impedance mis-match.
As you well know, it is totally non-existent.