Can your generator handle your entire house + barn load?
If not, you've got to split the loads to be fed from the generator out and put them in a sub panel.
Where is the service entrance equipment? Barn or house? I'm guessing that the generator is in the barn and you have 2 - 3/0 conductors plus 3 #10 conductors running between the two. Without knowing where all the pieces are, and the answer to the first question (above), we don't have enough information.