Don't look to this newsgroup for factual info on lead free! Instead look at actual test results in the trade publications such as SMT magazine:
My nutshell summary of the published test results is that lead free is significantly harder to do right than tin-lead, requiring tighter process controls, but if done right it can be more reliable than tin-lead for non-shock situations. Lead free is harder, stronger and more brittle than tin-lead so tin-lead will deform plastically under high shock when lead free will break, however lead free will withstand more hot-cold cycles than before failure than tin-lead (better fatigue resistance). So you need to know what the significant failure mechanisms are in your design to pick the most reliable materials.
Glen