Ok, how old are you? If you're in your early to mid 20s, you're forgiven.
If you're older than that, you need to GROW UP. You are not entitled to a perfect emotional universe from the people you interact with in the computer industry. You're asking for an abundance of diplomatic and communication skill out of people, that you yourself don't exercise. You want all these conversations with the various "idiots" to occur one way. YOUR way. Grow up! The world doesn't revolve around you. From other people's perspective, you don't have all the answers or behave in a perfectly desireable way either.
It's reasonable to expect professional behavior out of people. You won't always get it. That's life. Life ain't fair. Don't let the unfairness drag you into unprofessional behavior. If you want so much out of others, then set the example.
No, people aren't as smart as you are, generally speaking. Yes, you can get yourself in trouble by running your mouth *too long*. Usually this kind of advice pertains to women, but it comes up in interview situations also. You don't have to dance to someone else's tune. You don't have to answer questions, especially when they're there to trap you and incriminate you. ("Does this dress make me look fat?" Run away, no correct answer.) Take the offensive. You ask the questions of the interviewer. Don't completely shut him down; people don't like that, and will punish you for being arrogant. You need to have a conversation, and it needs to be two-way. Hold your own. Don't let interviewers push you around.
You can choose to exercise diplomatic skills. You can choose to spend time "reading" people more perceptively, to gain negotiating advantages over them. Or you can choose to whine about how everyone isn't honest and what has humanity come to.
Sorry dude, you're revealing you have a weakness. An *evolutionary* weakness. Evolution wasn't just about chucking better spears, that's extremely passe. Evolution was also about Social Intelligence - using your brain to get other people to do your bidding. All that social manipulation and machination, that's a big part of how our brains got bigger. It culminates in the City-State: massively stratified societies with Alpha Males / Females on top. And if this view of humanity is coming as a big shock to you, then perhaps you've got a techno-geek educational background. Maybe you never took History or Classics or Anthropology or Psychology or Political Science or one of those liberal artsy fartsy classes, and didn't learn how the vast majority of humanity does business. Or maybe you got the book knowledge, but haven't plowed through enough real life experience to absorb it.
Or maybe you're older and should jolly well know better and need to grow up.
"Idiots," indeed. Look in the mirror. If you're not getting what you want out of the interviews, who's the idiot?
Cheers, Brandon Van Every