I have often read people write on the internet that consumer microwave oven mangetrons contain beryllium oxide. I have not seen anyone cite any kind of source for thing other than that other people on the internet say it too. Other people on the internet say that it is alumina. It is possible that both exist, but I can't see any reason why they would use BeO.
Have you ever seen any mention of BeO on the magnetron manufacturer's datasheet?
I suspect strongly that it is an urban legend, (perhaps with the exeption of a few microwave ovens produced shortly after WWII out of re-purposed military radar parts that might have been full of all sorts of things).
I have some equipment that does contain BeO, but that has prominent warnings both in the instruction manual and also on big yellow stickers on the inside and the outside of the casing. I've never seen such warnings from a microwave oven manufacturer.