-40dB would be good. DC-20MHz. 50 ohms switching would be good, so I can just run everything low-assed-impedance straight through (with the understanding that some signal will be lost across the switch, which can't be a nonlinear response!). Peak amplitude about a volt, so it should handle up to 20mA.
I have, take for instance these examples;
I don't think I can find JFETs small enough (2N3819 grade capacitance) and conductive enough (J105 grade conductivity) to do 50 ohms in one pair, so they'll have to do it in two -- a tee switch. And it's two tees for the A/B action. This would have to be followed by a follower (possibly with another JFET for high impedance input, though right into a diff pair probably wouldn't be too bad anyway) to get back down to 50 ohms.
MOSFETs, like the SD214, are pretty close, but I'd have to hunt for them too. 1N914s I have in my parts bin...
Old methods? Ha! Just be glad I'm not using tubes in the output stage! ;-) The low capacitance of a 6DJ8 is tempting, though.....
Tim