Well, we just refer to the time integral of current that flows through a capacitor as "charge", which it precisely is. It's easier to say "the charge on the cap" than "all the charge that has flowed through the cap." A cap is "charged" if it has experienced a non-zero integrated current.
For Pete's sake, we all took physics. We understand this stuff. But we need to talk about these things quickly... you should hear some of the sessions around here.
Even though
We don't disassemble caps and count the charges inside. We do in fact measure the currents and the voltages at the terminals.
In the case of semiconductors, step-recovery diodes and such, we are downright evil about charge. "The stored charge in the DSRD junction is 800 nC". There's not even any charge separation, they are all mushed together. Physicists would despair.
Funny, I took physics and EE courses and never noticed a conflict. The EE profs always treated caps as storing charge. AoE resolves the situation in one sentence.
John