ATLC2 is a bit easier to drive.
The way to verify a sim is to make a board and TDR it. They are usually close.
The one in the pic above is from Shining Star.
SHINING STAR 19521000
We use
SHINING STAR 24521116
too, a bit longer part. Both about $1.90.
I've bought a bunch of similar ones from Amazon and they have been great. But it's our general policy to not use Amazon parts in production.
Here's a 4-layer proto board that let us TDR the connectors and the relay.