Yes. but for a simple dipole in free space we can leave it at 72 ohms.
Yes, agreed, coupling structures will alter the impedance of a dipole and also a folded dipole.
As I see it the changing element diameter alters the transforming ratio NOT the 72 ohms that is feedpoint impedance of a (theoretical), infinitely thin, dipole.
( this is an important point and may be the nub of the disagreement)
Using the calculator you will find altering d1 and d2 will NOT alter the The 72 ohms in the data line "Simple Dipole Feed Impedance (ohms)". (I don't know, maybe it should)
Ok, I think I getting close to being able argue my point, but I'm looking for some agreement here for the statements I made above. Thanksfor your help, Mike