Arguing that there is parasitic effects is without value unless you can show they have some impact on the issue.
And the AC waveform takes TIME to ramp up the voltage to a point where it is remotely likely to arc. By that point the gap more than prevents any current from flowing. I would guess you are thinking about the distance to interrupt a current which is not what's going on at this point.
Yep, because the timing is not being controlled.