Actually (!) I think the best way to clean the soldering iron tip is: with solder.
My observation: Wet sponge ruins tip Dry sponge ruins tip less. Using hole in wet sponges kills tip even faster.
Having solder accumulate on dry sponge and using that to wipe the tip clean, does not detoriate tip. I have seen somebody in assembly at tek who had accumulated a large solder ball and used that to clean the tip. For a week now I have been trying a bit of accumulated solder to clean the tip by rubbing the tip over it, and it works. Note that there is no resin left in that solder. It is the resin that attacks the copper, it is an evil plot involving solder makers and soldering iron makers who span together to keep selling you their stuff. A real conspiracy [theory]. Anyways, deliberate or not, I will stay with using solder to clean the tips for a while.